Why Are Relationships So Difficult?

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21st Century Relationships

These are confusing times. Technology and social changes are happening faster and faster, and the flow of information and advice is overwhelming.

And yet, we still haven’t solved the fundamental dilemmas of human beings:

  • How can I be myself and be accepted?
  • Is this as good as it gets?
  • How can I get my needs met?
  • How can I feel safe and secure in a changing world?
  • Where can I turn for good advice?

Check the pages within to find a collection of the latest research, best tools, and most effective practices to make relationships joyful and supportive – carefully curated by Jenny Hale, a coach with an Honours degree in Psychology and decades of coaching experience.

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Whether at work or at home, the quality of our life is largely determined by the quality of our relationships.

Authentic Relating is designed to be a “one stop shop” for all good quality information and advice about relationships, including our most important relationship – the relationship we have with ourselves. It is a place where highly qualified and experienced coaches and trainers can be recognised for their expertise, and introduced to a wider audience.

The initial information was curated by Jenny, based on her decades of experience in coaching and mentoring individuals, couples, and groups.

For more detail, visit our About page

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These are tough issues to navigate alone – and we are here to help!

Reach out any time through the contact form and ask for confidential online real-time support in any aspect of your relationships – including your relationship with yourself.

  • Intense emotions?    
  • Relationship conflict?
  • Times of transition?    
  • Difficult decisions to make?
  • Time to take control of your emotional life?

Whatever your situation, our experienced coaches will be able to guide you through the process. Simply fill in the contact form, and we will be in touch to arrange a free exploratory chat.

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Special Investigation:
Lasting Passion

For people who feel trapped, lost, and desperate in a sexless or low-sex relationship, I am here to tell you that there is definitely hope.

A lot of advice about this is grounded in false assumptions about sexual desire, and following that advice can make things worse, not better!

In this Special Investigation, we examine the “common wisdom” about rekindling desire, where it goes wrong, and the surprising truth about what is possible in a long-term relationship.

If you are yearning for the connection, the passion, the joy and aliveness that comes with a passionate romantic relationship, grab the Special Investigation now - it's FREE!

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Truth Bombs

A series of short videos about relationship advice that can lead people astray…

Why “Spice Up Your Sex Life” is Terrible Advice

There is a widespread belief that sexual boredom is to be expected in a long term relationship, and that the solution is to add more excitement, or “spice”. Here’s why that doesn’t work.

“Say It Sweetly” Is Bad Advice

We are always told to soften our tone, to wrap any criticism in compliments, and to speak calmly and clearly, without too much emotion. Here’s why that can be a really bad idea …

Don’t Worry, You Can’t “Emasculate” A Man

Debunking the notion that manhood is dependent on the words or actions of women.

The Problem With Makeup Sex

The pitfalls of using sex to end a conflict, and how to avoid them.

Why “Speak Your Truth” Is A Bad Idea

“The truth shall set you free”, which is probably not what you want, if it sets you free … from your relationship.

You Don’t Need To Be An Alpha Male

Debunking the harmful myth that women only want “alpha males” who display stereotypically dominant masculine behaviour.

Yes, You Should Go To Bed Angry

“Never go to bed angry” can be disastrously bad advice!

Walk Away From That Argument!

“Never walk away from an argument” is very problematic advice.

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Your Partner Is Not Your Therapist

A partner can provide support and encouragement while we heal our traumas and childhood wounds, but it is impossible for a partner to replace health professionals – and we should not expect it of them. So where is the line?

Intense Emotions

Emotions can be intensely painful, overwhelming and distressing. Here’s how to cope …

After Separation

The end of a long-term relationship is never easy. Immediately after separation, there are both practical and emotional challenges to navigate. No matter how clear it is that you need to part ways, separation is always a deep emotional process.

Grief

Grief is a normal part of human psychology. You wouldn’t know that from watching how grieving people are treated, though. There is a growing trend to consider grief a pathology, and to treat it as though it was a mental illness, or a personal weakness. Had...

The Problem With Makeup Sex

The pitfalls of using sex to end a conflict, and how to avoid them.

Lasting Passion Special Investigation

Special Investigation: can we keep desire alive in a long term relationship? We’re told to expect boredom, and experts offer all kinds of advice to fluff up our sex drive, but what if the experts have this all wrong? Find out here.

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Hot Topic: Sexuality

Why “Spice Up Your Sex Life” is Terrible Advice

There is a widespread belief that sexual boredom is to be expected in a long term relationship, and that the solution is to add more excitement, or “spice”. Here’s why that doesn’t work.

Secrets of Sexual Desire

People can be monogamous without getting bored in bed, manipulative games are at best a band-aid and at worst a disaster, and “spicing it up” might work for a brief while, but if you don’t address the real issue, the problem will be back.

Popular: Relating

You Don’t Need To Be An Alpha Male

Debunking the harmful myth that women only want “alpha males” who display stereotypically dominant masculine behaviour.

Why Are Relationships So Difficult?

Most of us weren’t taught relationship skills in school – and our parents weren’t always the best role models. But there is a deeper reason why we find relationships so challenging …

New: Conflict Resolution

Yes, You Should Go To Bed Angry

“Never go to bed angry” can be disastrously bad advice!

Why Are Relationships So Difficult?

Most of us weren’t taught relationship skills in school – and our parents weren’t always the best role models. But there is a deeper reason why we find relationships so challenging …

Favourites: Emotions

Intense Emotions

Emotions can be intensely painful, overwhelming and distressing. Here’s how to cope …

After Separation

The end of a long-term relationship is never easy. Immediately after separation, there are both practical and emotional challenges to navigate. No matter how clear it is that you need to part ways, separation is always a deep emotional process.

Grief

Grief is a normal part of human psychology. You wouldn’t know that from watching how grieving people are treated, though. There is a growing trend to consider grief a pathology, and to treat it as though it was a mental illness, or a personal weakness. Had...

New: Authenticity

Letting Go For The Authentic Self

Authenticity is inextricably linked to happiness. To be authentic is to feel at home in your body, accepted into a particular group, and to feel true to our sense of values.

Where Is My Authentic Self?

Authenticity is the goal for most inner work – but what exactly does it mean to be “authentic”? And who are when we are not being our “authentic self”?

Why “Speak Your Truth” Is A Bad Idea

“The truth shall set you free”, which is probably not what you want, if it sets you free … from your relationship.

You Don’t Need To Be An Alpha Male

Debunking the harmful myth that women only want “alpha males” who display stereotypically dominant masculine behaviour.

Popular: Videos

Don’t Worry, You Can’t “Emasculate” A Man

Debunking the notion that manhood is dependent on the words or actions of women.

You Don’t Need To Be An Alpha Male

Debunking the harmful myth that women only want “alpha males” who display stereotypically dominant masculine behaviour.