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The pitfalls of using sex to end a conflict, and how to avoid them.
A partner can provide support and encouragement while we heal our traumas and childhood wounds, but it is impossible for a partner to replace health professionals – and we should not expect it of them. So where is the line?
“The truth shall set you free”, which is probably not what you want, if it sets you free … from your relationship.
Emotions can be intensely painful, overwhelming and distressing. Here’s how to cope …
There is a widespread belief that sexual boredom is to be expected in a long term relationship, and that the solution is to add more excitement, or “spice”. Here’s why that doesn’t work.
The end of a long-term relationship is never easy. Immediately after separation, there are both practical and emotional challenges to navigate. No matter how clear it is that you need to part ways, separation is always a deep emotional process.
Debunking the notion that manhood is dependent on the words or actions of women.
Grief is a normal part of human psychology. You wouldn’t know that from watching how grieving people are treated, though. There is a growing trend to consider grief a pathology, and to treat it as though it was a mental illness, or a personal weakness. Had...
“Never go to bed angry” can be disastrously bad advice!
Most of us weren’t taught relationship skills in school – and our parents weren’t always the best role models. But there is a deeper reason why we find relationships so challenging …
“Never walk away from an argument” is very problematic advice.
Special Investigation: can we keep desire alive in a long term relationship? We’re told to expect boredom, and experts offer all kinds of advice to fluff up our sex drive, but what if the experts have this all wrong? Find out here.
We are always told to soften our tone, to wrap any criticism in compliments, and to speak calmly and clearly, without too much emotion. Here’s why that can be a really bad idea …
People can be monogamous without getting bored in bed, manipulative games are at best a band-aid and at worst a disaster, and “spicing it up” might work for a brief while, but if you don’t address the real issue, the problem will be back.
Debunking the harmful myth that women only want “alpha males” who display stereotypically dominant masculine behaviour.
Many of us were so distanced from ourselves by our upbringing, that when someone asks us to “find our authentic voice”, or “look for our inner wisdom”, we don’t know where to start …
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Authenticity is inextricably linked to happiness. To be authentic is to feel at home in your body, accepted into a particular group, and to feel true to our sense of values.
Authenticity is the goal for most inner work – but what exactly does it mean to be “authentic”? And who are when we are not being our “authentic self”?
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Authentic people respond to their intrinsic motives. Their thoughts, beliefs, words, and actions originate deep from within and…
When we have been raised in a culture which separates us from our authentic self, the road home requires patience and discipline.
There is a branch of psychotherapy which explicitly acknowledges and works with an authentic self beyond the ego, or false self. The techniques of transpersonal therapy can be a swift and effective path to peace, power and authenticity.