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Your Partner Is Not Your Therapist

Your Partner Is Not Your Therapist

A partner can provide support and encouragement while we heal our traumas and childhood wounds, but it is impossible for a partner to replace health professionals – and we should not expect it of them. So where is the line?

Intense Emotions

Intense Emotions

Emotions can be intensely painful, overwhelming and distressing. Here’s how to cope …

After Separation

After Separation

The end of a long-term relationship is never easy. Immediately after separation, there are both practical and emotional challenges to navigate. No matter how clear it is that you need to part ways, separation is always a deep emotional process.

Grief

Grief

Grief is a normal part of human psychology. You wouldn’t know that from watching how grieving people are treated, though. There is a growing trend to consider grief a pathology, and to treat it as though it was a mental illness, or a personal weakness. Had...

Lasting Passion Special Investigation

Lasting Passion Special Investigation

Special Investigation: can we keep desire alive in a long term relationship? We’re told to expect boredom, and experts offer all kinds of advice to fluff up our sex drive, but what if the experts have this all wrong? Find out here.

“Say It Sweetly” Is Bad Advice

“Say It Sweetly” Is Bad Advice

We are always told to soften our tone, to wrap any criticism in compliments, and to speak calmly and clearly, without too much emotion. Here’s why that can be a really bad idea …

Secrets of Sexual Desire

Secrets of Sexual Desire

People can be monogamous without getting bored in bed, manipulative games are at best a band-aid and at worst a disaster, and “spicing it up” might work for a brief while, but if you don’t address the real issue, the problem will be back.

What is “The Authentic Self”?

What is “The Authentic Self”?

Many of us were so distanced from ourselves by our upbringing, that when someone asks us to “find our authentic voice”, or “look for our inner wisdom”, we don’t know where to start …

Why Are Relationships So Difficult?

Why Are Relationships So Difficult?

Most of us weren’t taught relationship skills in school – and our parents weren’t always the best role models. But there is a deeper reason why we find relationships so challenging …

Free Membership Has Its Benefits …

Free Membership Has Its Benefits …

In our free Members’ Area, you will find a treasure trove of video, audio, and written materials, as well as exercises and techniques you can practice at home.

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Letting Go For The Authentic Self

Letting Go For The Authentic Self

Authenticity is inextricably linked to happiness. To be authentic is to feel at home in your body, accepted into a particular group, and to feel true to our sense of values.

Where Is My Authentic Self?

Where Is My Authentic Self?

Authenticity is the goal for most inner work – but what exactly does it mean to be “authentic”? And who are when we are not being our “authentic self”?

Videos

Don’t Worry, You Can’t “Emasculate” A Man

Debunking the notion that manhood is dependent on the words or actions of women.

You Don’t Need To Be An Alpha Male

Debunking the harmful myth that women only want “alpha males” who display stereotypically dominant masculine behaviour.

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Increasing Authenticity

Increasing Authenticity

Authentic people respond to their intrinsic motives. Their thoughts, beliefs, words, and actions originate deep from within and…

Finding The Authentic Self: Transpersonal Psychology

Finding The Authentic Self: Transpersonal Psychology

There is a branch of psychotherapy which explicitly acknowledges and works with an authentic self beyond the ego, or false self. The techniques of transpersonal therapy can be a swift and effective path to peace, power and authenticity.